The Messages All Around Us

Hi,

Early on Monday morning, while waiting for the lights to change at an empty intersection, I was surprised by a seagull that flew into the center of the intersection, abruptly stopped and then just hovered there staring at me.

This was so unusual I made a mental note to look up what a seagull means but forgot all about it as I went about my day.

On Tuesday afternoon, I had a meeting that I expected to go one way but which went in a direction that left me feeling very uneasy.  However, I was unsure whether this was because there was something to be genuinely concerned about or because I was unexpectedly being pushed well outside my comfort zone.

By Wednesday morning, I was still feeling uneasy (and undecided why) when in front of me, its wings spread out wide, was a beautiful black moth.

I think if it had just been a standard brown moth I would just have thought “ugh” and put it outside without a second thought.  But being black, spread out on a red background, it really caught my attention.

Its unusualness also reminded me of the seagull, so I decided then and there to look them both up without any further delay.

Reading through the descriptions, and going with what felt right for me, I identified the following two messages:

  1. Soar above the drama.  Look through your own emotional boundaries so you can create new ways to move forward, and
  2. Keep focused but do not fall victim to blind faith.  Adjust your course as your path indicates rather than drive forward without heeding important signs along the way.

Timely messages indeed.

I still feel a little uncertain as to where my Tuesday meeting may go, if any where, but at least I know it is my emotional response to uncertainty making me feel this way which in turn makes it easier to remind myself that until there is some certainty there is no point worrying what it may mean.

This sequence of events has also been a good reminder that there is so much going on around us each and every day that often we miss the messages they are giving us.  So, take the time tomorrow to really notice what you are seeing; you may just find the answers you are looking for.

Please feel free to share your experience in the comments below.

Tracy Twyman

The Basics of: Fear

Hi,

In his book Get The Life You Want, Richard Bandler, the co-creator of NLP, writes:

We have a tendency to build whatever we fear up and up and up until it literally paralyses us… The real issue is (you have) developed a habit of being afraid, when (you) don’t need to be.  (You) have learned to engage in a certain behaviour  … not based on what happened … (but based) on what (you) did with what happened.

Elohim, do you agree with what Richard Bandler wrote above?

Yes we do.

Is all fear habit based?

A better explanation is it is experience based: either based on the individual’s own experience or passed on through cellular memory or actual story.  In the case of the latter this can be either a true story or a story told for entertainment purposes.

So this is why after seeing something like a horror movie we are more inclined to imagine something lurking in the shadows?

Yes.  It is also why people play out worse case scenarios.  Many reassure themselves that this allows them to be prepared should such an event occur.  However, it heightens their sense of impending doom and reinforces their fear of that outcome actually manifesting.  This in turn makes them revisit the scenario over and over again.

Elohim, Richard Bandler also writes that there is no need to know the base from which the fear sprung, only to change the thinking that reinforces the fear.  Do you agree with this?

 We do from the perspective of breaking the cycle.  However, from the perspective of preventing the fear being manifested in another form, we recommend identifying the event so it can be cleared from the cellular memory .  In many cases the cause is known as it arises in this lifetime.  However, in some cases the cause will be obscure as it arises from other lifetimes and long forgotten events.

Elohim, do you have any other comment to assist our basic understanding of fear?

Yes.  Know in your heart it is inhibiting you from being all that you actually are.  It is leading you to hide and leave so much of your potential unrealised.  Please share the example Richard Bandler gives of the woman who could not tell the difference between fantasy and memory, as placing a black border around the images being created when in the grip of fear may assist with highlighting fear is just a pattern of thinking that has been imbued with great emotion and nurtured over and over and over again.

Thank you

… Every time she would come in to the psychiatrist, she would cry and moan about having killed her parents.  He would bring in her parents and she would chat thoughtfully with them and when they left she would claim she had killed them.

… I … asked (the psychiatrist) how he knew which of his memories was real and which ones were fantasies… he told me his fantasies had a black border around them and his memories didn’t.

(Hypnotism was then used to get past the patients hysteria and to get her to re-code all her fantasies with a black border.  Following the session she could easily and calmly distinguish between actual events and fantasy)

Tracy Twyman 

Update #1

Hi,

In the post “Five Life Lessons” I said I would commit to updating you on my progress so we could all share our journey towards what we want from 2017.

Lesson 1:     Who Have I Frustrated?

In 2016, I was at the top of my list.

42 days into 2017 I am happy to say, although I am still frustrating myself, I am also following through on more and more things that will take me where I want to be.  However, I still need to put more effort into considering my impact on others if I am to significantly reduce the frustration I cause them.

Lesson 2:     How Did I Frustrate Them?

I identified this was by closing down, going on the attack and sending conflicting signals that left others unsure of what they could believe and/or rely on.

I have therefore been more closely listening to the “jokes” people make about the way I behave and I can see a lot of frustration arises from my tendency to try to control situations beyond an overall stated outcome.  I am therefore working on checking with myself whether it really matters that it is done my way.

Lesson 3:     What Is The Biggest Thing I Can Do To Break This Cycle?

I decided the best thing I could do in 2017 was to be really aware of my reactions AND then spend some quiet time contemplating why I am reacting the way I am.

My record has been less than stellar in this area, especially when I know I am in the wrong, so a lot more effort is required if I am truly going to break the cycle and be who I really want to be.

Lesson 4:     What Is The Specific Action I Need To Take

This was to be honest with myself and others about how I am feeling, what I am wanting and what I need.

Low marks here again but there has been some progress and with 323 days of the year left I am hopeful I will still end the year with a tick against these things.

Lesson 5:     How Will I Ensure I Take This Action

My resolution was to update you on my results.

I have also started the Lifebook course which closely considers 12 areas of your life: Health/Fitness; Love; Career/Finances; Intellectual; Emotional; Character; Spiritual; Parenting; Social; Financial; Career; Quality of Life and Life Vision.

I am hopeful between these two things, and my overall goals for 2017, I will make significant progress towards eliminating the push-pull of going after what I want.

How are you progressing?

Please share in the comments how your year has been so far.

And remember, if it could be better, you only have to do one thing different a day to make a really significant change.

Tracy Twyman